The Hidden Emotional Burden of the Holidays

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here Hello there, Here is Part Two of the three-part series on the unusual combination of emotions many of us experience as the holidays approach. I hope you enjoy it – and the holidays.​Wishing you a better understanding of the constellation of emotions that swirls within you,​ […]

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The Toxic Emotional Cocktail That Is the Holiday Season

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here Hello there, ​ I developed the three-part series below based on my firsthand witnessing of the toll the upcoming holidays is surprisingly taking on a lot of people. I wanted to better understand why. I hope this series helps you also better understand how you are […]

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Transcending Abandonment: A New Approach to Intimacy

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here This is Part Four of a four-part series titled “You Cannot Be Abandoned.” You can find Part One here. Karla and I agreed that I would propose within six months and we would have our wedding within a year of that date. All of this happened […]

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What Truly Matters More Than the Capacity to Love?

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here This is Part Three of a four-part series titled “You Cannot Be Abandoned.” You can find Part One here. A year and a half after Karla left me that third time, I returned to Mexico and deliberately did not see her until two days before my […]

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Can’t Stomach What’s Happening in the World? Try This

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here Greetings from San Miguel de Allende, Mexico,​ I don’t know too many people these days who are content with the direction the world is heading in. We need change and we need it soon. ​It’s easy to feel frustrated, even powerless, about what is happening. ​These […]

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Isolation Nation: Why Modern Life Feels So Empty

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here Greetings from Greece, Hello there! I’m here at a conference with about 200 leadership researchers, the food is wonderful and the backdrop to the conference breathtaking.​While at the conference, which focused on AI and leadership, I reflected a lot on the words of Einstein. “We cannot […]

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The Power of Screen-Free Togetherness

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here My father once attended a Harvard alumni reunion in which he listened to a speech by a former Harvard president. “I’ve spoken with many alumni here and many of us are divorced or just alone and miserable,” one alumnus shared with the president during the […]

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Want to Transform Your Life? Reclaim Floodlight Thinking

At a recent two-day conference I taught to over fifty leaders in Amsterdam, we began by participants reading the Ground Rules. They expressed surprise at the fourth and most controversial rule of our collective engagement: Your phone, laptop, tablet or other digital device must be switched off during the sessions. A phone ringing during a [...] Read More

The Presence Cure

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here The greatest lesson I learned at a conference I facilitated for over fifty nonprofit leaders in Amsterdam earlier this month dates back to a troubled American teenager named Mark. Don’t Give Up on Me At sixteen years old, Mark had been expelled from a public […]

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The Loneliness of Working for Social Change

You can also read this article in Psychology Today here Ever since Sarah Wright and I started researching loneliness together about ten years ago, I have asked participants at my leadership conferences “Who here feels lonely sometimes?” at the beginning of a session I teach on how to create a culture of belongingness in organizations. […]

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